"So you can’t be afraid of the monsters that are hiding inside you, and you can’t ignore them either, that just gives them more leeway. Learn to address them, debunk them, and move on. Let yourself be gutted if that’s what you need to do. Reconstruct your ideas and re-educate yourself on what it means to be you, to be a woman, to be a man, to be a professional, to be a parent, etc. Get rid of all the notions of what “should be” and let yourself be as you are, I promise, you’ll end up better for it."